A new start

Since Sebastian was very young, he was a defiant child. Raising him on my own, and without financial help from his father was very difficult, so we moved a lot. Most of the time we spent was together, doing art, playing outside, doing homework, reading, or playing with Legos. We were a team, best friends, and support for each other. He is an old soul and is wise for his age. While he attended preschool, he was asked to leave 6 separate preschools. The teachers didn’t have the knowledge or capacity to assist when he had difficult behavior. I had to quit working due to the calls mid-day from his school to come pick him up; at least three times weekly. I was a supervisor at a cleaning company. My job from that point on was to find a program that would help my very bright, creative 4 year old little boy. His father and my family did not have a clue what was going on, due to their lack of communication. I was doing this alone, as it had always been before. I went to the head of the school board in Sonoma County and she initiated an IEP. Just prior to this, he was asked to leave one last school, Kiwi Preschool. This is where Dr. Kliman came into our lives. I sought out this school because he was there as a part his Reflective Network Therapy with children. As a child psychologist and compassionate, professional, and experienced MD, and advocate, he became a friend. Sebastian was able to open up with Dr. Kliman’s help, and Sebastian began coming into touch with his feelings, and how to express them safely and with proper actions. Unfortunately, Sebastian was asked to leave this school also, over a misunderstanding. Although he was starting to thrive; I had to resort to a new direction. When Mike entered our lives things got easier financially and he loved us both the same. When Sebastian finally let Mike in, they became best buds. He was the first father figure he had and we continued to stay in a loving relationship for 3 years. Early 2016 I began to loose my ability to use my legs. Then, one morning I was completely paralyzed from the waist down. My folks tried to bring a wheelchair up to my second story apartment. But we ended up having to call for an ambulance to drive me to the local hospital for an MRI. The results were unknown, but urgent. I was then rushed to UCSF ICU, neurology department for emergency Spinal Decompression surgery. The next day, when the specialist was in, he looked at my x-rays and told me that I have another surgery to undergo. This one was going to take 8 hours, and they were going to replace a vertebra with a titanium vertebra and also remove a tumor wrapping around my spinal cord. I was, at that time, diagnosed with stage IV breast cancer with Metastasized to the bone and spine. I was in shock, but not frightened. I was in the best place possible for this to have happened, UCSF has a very successful neurology team, and I felt the spirit of my grandma. After a successful surgery, I spent 2 full weeks in the ICU at UCSF. I was then sent back home, to Santa Rosa California, Memorial Hospital Rehab Facility to gain the ability to walk again. This took 3 weeks, Sebastian had to live with my folks. During that time, Sebastian couldn’t see me or talk to me; until I was moved back to Santa Rosa rehab facility. He was unsure if I was going to walk again, or going to die. Knowing I have a disease that can literally take my life, he had a hard time adjusting when he came back home to me. It was heartbreaking to see how concerned he was so for my wellbeing. He was always asking, “mom, are you ok?” Sometimes for no reason, at least 10 times a day. We were able to get back to a regular life and as time passed, Mike and I began to struggle with our relationship. Partly due to my medically induced menopause, and also because we started using methamphetamine on occasion. I soon found out he was using it more and more and I realized, quickly, that I had to get us away from the man I so loved; in order to keep my son safe. I made the decision to move us to live with my cousin and his family in Oregon.
While living with the Hundt family, we all got along and we never argued. Jennifer had I confided in each other and I told her I was a recovering addict, she confirmed that I was in a safe place to get clean. About two months later I was moving into our new place, it was the Hundt`s annual Halloween party. I hung out with the kids, sober, and the hosts maintained a child friendly party environment by keeping the drugs and alcohol outside on the back porch. And as I had never had a bad encounter with them before, an argument started over a kitten that evening after the guests went home. I went to ask Sebastian if he wanted to stay the night with the other children; still in their costumes, and kissed him goodbye. Since the argument started Jennifer was completely drunk and threatened to call the police on me, she called 911 after I left. When they came for a report she lied to them and said I grabbed my son, and told them I was on drugs. A couple days later CPS contacted me and I admitted to being a recovering addict. They thought that was enough evidence to start a case on me, even though there was no found proof of the allegations and I had no drugs or alcohol in my system. It wasn’t until 4 months later that I gave a dirty UA. That evening, while making dinner, my case worker came and took my son from me. He placed him in the care of my cousin, (foster family) my false accusers. My cousins wife, Jennifer is a bipolar, manic, alcoholic.; with a personal vendetta against me, and threatened to kill me in front of my son, and CPS.
As time went on, things for me only got worst. Jennifer was in contact with CPS reporting lies that they wrote down as facts. She was in contact with Sebastian’s father and my family also, ultimately turning my entire family against me. She could not keep her composure around my son or cps workers when speaking about me. DHS documented all of her threats and foul language about me. When she threatened to kill me, in front of Stephanie Phillips, CPS visitations worker, she was concerned and made sure her concerns were heard. There are many pages of documented concerns about the foster family, stating they believe that they are the reason for my son’s emotional distress. Nothing was ever done to reunite my son and I.

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5 thoughts on “A new start

  1. Wow a lot of accusations against people, who took care of your son when he was taken away from you. They don’t just take a child away, espically from a mother unless there is founded evidence. Looks like everyone is against you, so there must be reasons why. Not everyone is wrong. You should be thankful your son had a roof over his head, taken care of, a full belly, and a warm bed to sleep in

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    1. The fact of the matter is, I lived with a pathological liar, bipolar, alcoholic with a personal vendetta against me. My child should never have been taken from me, the entire case is made up crap, lack of evidence, only false stories, made up from a very unstable mind of a distant family member. I realize nobody is taking this serious, that’s why I am working extra hard to get my story out. The truth must be exposed , there are so many families destroyed due to lack of regard for regulations. No laws governed my case or supervised my situation. The Judge wasn’t even contacted in order to follow correct procedure to allow the case worker to take my son. If she had, then I would have never lost anything. I was denied due process, my expert witnesses were denied testimony, and my case worker committed purgery. Look up CPS/DHS Oregon statistics, it’s not only disturbing, horrific, and has an extremely poor success rate. It is criminal, and the fact that the masses don’t know the truth is what makes the system even more corrupt. Nobody stands up to them, nobody tells their stories. People are affraid to tell the truth due to the very same reactions I have constantly recieved on this blog. I have absolutely no shame in what I write about. It is not exaggerated, and I stand by my words 100%. I am a great mother, I raised my son alone for 7 years and no help from his father, or rest of my family. My son is amazingly bright, creative, witty, kind, a healthy eater, and very helpful. The only evidence in my case was my one positive UA due to a minor relapse. I completed relapse prevention courses, submitted random clean UAs for 7 months and spoke to a mental health, and a drug counselor often. I attended parenting classes, moved into a better home, I have no record whatsoever and I have my own successful business. I moved to Oregon to get sober, a little over a year ago. I was falsely reported about, lied about, the foster mother lied to my son about me countless occasions; with upsetting lies for any child. Also, the foster mom threatened to kill me in the presence of my son, and a CPS visitation worker. All of what I write in my blog are words directly from my CPS file, no exaggeration on my part. Nothing in my case file can be considered evidence of my bad mothering. Even when my lawyer requested, from my CPS case worker, on numerous occasions, nothing was ever procured or provided. Except one falsified document, a made up receipt for fake urine. During my relapse program, I extended my course 2 months past my required time frame. To suffice my case worker with a couple witnessed UAs. When Lauren Fields told me, I’m still considered a safety threat, due to my involvement in services still. She had confirmed otherwise on the phone with my program director. She herself asked my counselor to keep me enrolled in the clinic until my case is finished. Then told me, and the judge that since i still attend Lifeworks; that was her deciding factor to send my son away. DHS helped us get into a new home, and never did a home visit. They also denied Sebastian’s paternal grandfather to apply for the SSP role. That was solely due to lies that CPS never took time to substantiate. So just so we are clear……CPS ABSOLUTELY DO TAKE A CHILD AWAY, EVEN WHEN THERE IS NO EVIDENCE. It’s quite simple to do a bit of research on your own, for your own piece of mind. I hope everyone does, that’s why I’m pursuing this multi media publications. Thanks for your comment.

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  2. All I see here is one side of a story. I don’t see any facts or proof laws were broken. It’s just one person’s side of the story vs another until there are actual facts presented. Text messages proving the claims you are making and such. I am sorry you feel betrayed but until legitimate facts are proven I cannot feel sorry for you

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    1. You don’t have to feel anything for me. Especially if you don’t even know what happened. I don’t need to prove myself to you. My case is in appeals court now and the state will decide the truth. Confidentiality discourages me from posting copies of my files, and if a timeline is beneficial to help you get what I mean, I will gladly post one. Thanks for your comments, not sure why you feel like I want your sympathy…..

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  3. In due time all will be proven and the facts will be revealed. I’m working toward publicizing this as much as possible. It’s taken everything in me not to retaliate. I am a better person that the alleged ‘good mom’. She soon will be feeling what I had to feel, go through scrutiny, demeaning actions that question her mothering. And hopefully the truth will lead to turning the scope on her. She is a demented vessel of a mother that would ever consider this horrendous act upon a fellow mother/”family member”. I am patiently waiting for justice.

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